Life is a journey. It starts with a childhood where you learned to interact with others on the playground and share your favourite toy. Soon, you move into young adulthood with its vast emotional attachments and desire for independence. Next, you are headed into full-blow adulthood with all the trimmings – jobs, relationships, kids, mortgages, and debt.
In each stage, you have relationships and belongings that you love and others that you don’t need. Finally, you find yourself old and wondering what in the world happened! The key is learning to let go of what doesn’t serve you and keep what does.
Relationships give us a sense of belonging. The right ones bolster you and encourage you to grow as a person. The wrong ones leave you depleted emotionally. All relationships have their ups and downs. However, if you have a relationship that always seems down instead of up, it may be time to let it go. It will not be easy, especially if children are involved, but it may be necessary to your overall wellbeing.
How to Know When It’s Time to Let Go
Who hasn’t been hurt by someone? Your partner cheated on you. Your best friend from school betrayed you. Maybe you have a co-worker stealing your ideas or a boss who bullies you. Worse, you might have experienced trauma from physical, mental, or other forms of abuse. As time passes, some wounds don’t heal, and when that happens, you may be carrying a grudge. Grudges are those leftover feelings of anger and resentment that prevent you from growing as a person. It’s time to let go and move beyond your past.
Tips to Let Go of Grudges and Get Your Life Back
Are you a perfectionist or an over-achiever? The difference may surprise you. Over-achievers aim high and hit their mark. They succeed because they are motivated to do their best in everything. Perfectionists want to achieve, but fear of failure stops them. It paralyzes them and diminishes their self-esteem. Does this sound like you? There is nothing wrong with aiming for perfection; however, it can hold you back more than you realize. It’s possible to let go of your need for perfectionism and see yourself in the achiever category.
How You Can Kiss Perfectionism Goodbye
Decluttering gives you the orderliness that encourages creativity and a healthier lifestyle. Your stress levels will dissipate when you choose to declutter and organize your home. For example, seeing a kitchen counter cleared of mail from the past six years is a godsend. However, choosing what to keep and what to ditch can be taxing.
You may struggle over items of sentimental value. You may feel guilty over the money ‘wasted’ or make excuses to keep things. Part of expanding your horizons and attaining your goals begins with your ability to release those things that no longer serve you. Personal belongings are an excellent place to start.